Friday, 11 April 2014

Anger Management

By Hazrat Maulana Yunus Patel Saheb (Rahmatullahi ‘alayh)

Bismillahir Rahmaanir Raheem

Do not make a decision with regards to any matter when angry. In anger, a person is bound to make a faulty decision, which he will later regret having made, all his life. We find that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam) advised us: “If one of you gets angry, he should be quiet.”

            Move away, cool down and think seriously before firing the bullets of divorce. Almost every husband has regretted the decision of 'Talaaq' made when angry. Many wives have also regretted demanding a divorce, after their anger cooled and they thought of the consequences.

            Even parents should be careful of the words they utter and should not beat up their children in anger, for they too could sometimes regret, all their lives, the damage done. Teachers, as well, should not a make a decision of punishment in anger.

            Since the expression of anger is from shaytaan, one has to be wary in not succumbing to it. Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam) guided us towards managing our anger, when he advised a man overcome by anger to recite the Ta’awwuz:

            “I seek protection with Allah from shaytaan, the cursed one.”
            In another narration, Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam) said: “Anger comes from the shaytaan, shaytaan was created of fire, and fire is extinguished only with water; so when one of you becomes angry, he should perform Wudhu (ablution).”
            And Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam) further instructed: “When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise he should lie down.”

            Anyone following through with these prescriptions given by Nabi (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam) will certainly find great benefit and goodness.