Bismillahir Rahmaanir Raheem
Prescription given by
Hazrat
Maulana Yunus Patel Saheb (Rahmatullahi ‘alayh)
There is no shortage of
complaints when it comes to giving up sins and the struggle that ensues between
a person, his nafs and shaytaan.
This battle is on-going –
till our dying day. There is no way out, except to show the courage and bravery
that every Muslim does have – when it comes to Pleasing Allah Ta’ala.
Sadly, another widespread
weakness is that of Haraam fantasizing. Young and old, married and unmarried –
thousands upon thousands, succumb to their runaway imagination when it comes to
fantasy world, and this in turn leads to even graver sins.
Allah Ta’ala granted us the
power of Imagination for a beautiful purpose; but most people today utilize
this imagination for entertaining filthy thoughts.
The following is a
prescription, which I have given to many who complained of the weakness of
Haraam fantasizing. Alhamdulillah, it has been a means of cure for many. May
Allah Ta’ala make it a means of cure for all those who have this ailment.
Aameen.
Haraam
fantasizing is a spiritual ailment. It is an abuse of the great, wonderful and
amazing gift of imagination.
Why did Allah Ta’ala give us
this gift of imagination?
The imagination has been
given to us so that it may be used to ponder over the Qur`aan Shareef, which
entails stories of past nations and verses upon verses of Jannah[1]
and the beautiful bounties of Jannah, as well as Jahannum[2]
and accountability. This imagination was to be used for the purpose of taking
lesson and strengthening our Imaan. It was to be used as a catalyst for
undertaking good deeds.
The imagination was certainly
not given to us so that we may indulge our nafs in evil, filthy thoughts. Allah
Ta’ala forbid.
One of the main reasons why
both men and women have this problem plaguing them, is due to casting lustful
gazes.
Lustful gazes, socialising with ghair-mahareem[4], or watching porn movies, paging through porn magazines, or reading romance
novels, increases desire. To satisfy these shahawaat (base desires), which then overcome the person, the person resorts to fantasizing.
But fantasizing is not going
to satisfy desire. It will only increase desire. The person’s sickness will
increase. His physical health will inevitably also suffer.
When the desire to engage in
Haraam fantasizing comes into the heart, then take the imagination to the Day
of Judgment; stand before Allah Ta’ala’s Seat of Judgment and begin accounting
for all your actions in this world. Think of how you will have to account for
and what you will say to Allah Ta’ala when all these filthy thoughts will be
presented to you – if you continue in this sin.
Allah Ta’ala states in the
Qur`aan Sharief :
“When the Scrolls are laid open.”
[Surah
At-Takweer 81 :10]
“This Our record speaks about you with truth : For We were
wont
to put on record all that you did.”
[Surah
Al-Jaathiya
45 :29]
Even though Allah Ta’ala is
All-Knowing and well aware of all that we do, He has established a system
whereby every action and every detail of every action is recorded and which
will be presented to us on the Day of Reckoning – in favour of us or witness against
us.
Otherwise take your
imagination for Hajj: Picture yourself at the Multazam, making Tawaaf, making
Sa`ee; picture yourself at the Raudha Mubarak, conveying Salaam to Rasulullah (Sallallaahu
‘alayhi wasallam), or take your imagination to your Qabr[5]
and the events which unfold in the grave after death. …Insha-Allah, this will a
means of defeating nafs and shaytaan, as well as obliterating a filthy habit.
If you find yourself still
weak against the demands of nafs and the whisperings of shaytaan, then
immediately occupy yourself in that which is ‘Mubaah’ (permissible). Begin
conversation with your parents, or with brothers and sisters, or phone a good,
pious friend, or listen to some Qira’at or Deeni talk… Occupy yourself in that
which is Halaal and Mubaah; otherwise nafs will ravage your heart and destroy
your peace of mind and lead you to even suicidal tendencies.
Consider filthy thoughts as
pigs. Just as we show aversion and absolute disgust on seeing a pig, so should
we be disgusted with dirty thoughts – which are also Haraam (forbidden).
Furthermore, Haraam
fantasizing leads to the evil habit of self-gratification (masturbation),
because the person does not find a Halaal avenue to immediately satisfy his
desires. This is a rather disastrous weakness amongst the youth and one should
ponder over the various harms, which are too many, and these harms are
spiritual, physical and psychological harms.
Satisfying one’s desires by
masturbating is not permissible even if a person does not have the means to
marry. Allah Ta’ala mentions in the Qur’aan Shareef that those who do not find
the means to marry should remain chaste.
“And those who do not find the means to marry, should
remain chaste until Allah gives them resources by His Grace.”
[Surah An-Noor 24 :33]
Remaining chaste is thus a
Divine command which is compulsory to comply with – therefore we will find the
Ahaadeeth presenting prescriptions to remain chaste – for example, lowering the
gaze, fasting, etc.
As a prescription, the
following harms should be read and re-read if need be, until it is understood
that the harms long term are not worth the gratification that comes with the
sin.
SPIRITUAL HARMS :
1.) Taufeeq of doing good deeds
is taken away. The person is deprived of Tahajjud, Tilawah of the Qur`aan Shareef,
associating with the pious, etc.
2.) The person deprives the Ruh
(soul) of spiritual knowledge and finds an aversion to people.
3.) The most dangerous is that
the person will not be able to remain steadfast on Deen. (Allah Ta’ala
protect).
4.) Besides this, a person who
satisfies his evil desires in this manner is cursed according to Rasulullah (Sallallaahu
‘alayhi wasallam). ...Sincere Taubah and Istighfaar should be resorted to. In most
cases, while the sin is forgiven, the physical harm is long lasting.
The following physical harms
have been recorded by highly qualified Hakims, the equivalent of specialist
doctors. Some harms listed are for men and others, for females.
PHYSICAL HARMS :
1.) The bladder becomes weak and
this leads to problems in respect to Taharah – Wudhu/ Salaah and other Ibaadah.
There are many that are suffering with involuntary urinary and seminal
discharges due to the indulgence in this sin, and they write mentioning the
difficulties that are thereafter encountered.
2.) It weakens the nerves.
3.) It causes some limbs like the
legs to shake and quiver.
4.) It causes pain in the
vertebra column, the spinal column from which semen is ejaculated. This pain
creates crookedness and twisting in the back.
5.) It creates weakness in the
brain and weakness of memory.
6.) It weakens the sight and
reduces the normal limit of vision.
7.) It causes a person to become
old before time.
8.) It decreases the natural
resistance of the body.
9.) It causes harm to the four
principle organs in the body: the heart, brain, liver and stomach.
10.) It leads to impotency.
11.) Excessive loss of semen is in reality excessive loss of
blood. In later years, it can be, that such a person will not have the ability
to father any children.
12.) It causes an excessive loss of sperm by way of nocturnal
emission (wet dreams).
PSYCHOLOGICAL HARMS:
It leads to:
1.) Agitation and irritation over
trivial matters,
2.) Lack of confidence,
3.) Disinterest in studying and
4.) Desire for isolation.
Much more can be stated in
respect to the harms of this sin. So contemplating the above, should give every
incentive to give up the sin. No one would like to contend with any one of the
above problems and yet just one evil deed and the person has invited waves of
calamities upon himself or herself.
If evil desires still get the
better, one should fast lengthy periods of time (weeks on end and reduce intake
of meat, etc.); otherwise Nikah is a simple solution. Where the evil desires
are so difficult to suppress that the person engages in Haraam then it becomes Fardh
(compulsory) for the person to marry. This is, of course, for those who have
the ability.
May Allah Ta’ala grant us the
understanding and the Taufeeq to stay away from all sins.
[1] Jannah : Paradise
[2] Jahannum : Hellfire
[3] Read the Prescription for Lustful Gazes HERE
[4] Ghair Mahram:
A person whom one can marry at some stage. For example: A sister-in-law is a
ghair-mahram and can be married after the brother’s death or after divorce.
[5] Qabr : literally means ‘Grave’ [Also the
period of life after death until the Resurrection].
